Are you stuck? Are you having trouble taking things to the next level?
Maybe things are moving just a little bit slower than you would like in terms of actually seeing the results you want in your life, health, finances, relationships or business? Is that you?
Well the good news is that you can get unstuck and you can do it fairly quickly if you’re committed and willing to take massive action. That’s right, there is actually a way to attract more abundance, become powerful at work, or finally get the love you’ve been searching for your whole life.
The reason why you’re stuck is that you are no longer growing! You are comfortably uncomfortable and are not stretching the boundaries to what you want to accomplish. The best way to fix this is to move out of your comfort zone. All personal growth happens outside your comfort zone and once a mind is expanded it will never return back to it’s original size. So the more you get outside your comfort zone the more your mind will expand, the more you will grow. The only way we can grow is by always putting ourselves in new situations that make us feel awkward or uncomfortable!
Michael Bernoff is a leader in the personal and professional development industry. He’s also a mentor of mine and during the past decade he has been instrumental in dramatically enhancing the quality of thousands of lives. He created the concept of RPM (Rapid Personal Momentum). RPM is a way to divide your personal comfort zone up like a tachometer below. It’s a way to rate your comfort zone as it pertains to your life!
The area we consider the comfort zone is the 1-7 area…this is an area where we will experience limited or slow growth. The area outside your comfort zone is the 7-8 area. The more you enter the 7-8 area the quicker results your will have. This is where we experience fast growth!
Here are a couple examples of how to get unstuck by getting outside your comfort zone!
1. Comfort Zone: You have a goal to work out daily but can’t seem to stick to you a regular routine. You continue working out 1 or 2 days a week…if that, and never really get any momentum. You continually put off working out because your inner voice is saying…”You’ll get to it later” and we all know “later” never comes, right? Action…
Get Outside Your Comfort Zone: You hire a personal trainer today, right now… in the next five minutes and your first workout is tomorrow. They hold your feet to the fire and working out daily becomes a habit and you become a stronger more confident person in the process.
2. Comfort Zone: You want to eat healthier but still eat things you’re not supposed to be eating. You’re okay with this and tell yourself you’ll eat better next time..REALLY? Action…
Get Outside Your Comfort Zone: You hire a nutritionist to help you plan healthy meals on a daily basis so you can stay on point and finally lose those pounds you’ve been trying to lose for 3 years now. You look better than ever and people are starting to notice you and your confidence is soaring through the roof.
You see my point here right?
Here is exert from some personal development training I took with Michael Bernoff
ADDITIONAL WAYS TO RAISE YOUR RAPID PERSONAL MOMENTUM (RPM) LEVEL: Expanding your comfort zone isn’t quite the same as building self-confidence. However, the two do fit together rather nicely. The one begets the other. So many people feel stuck in a rut… bored from a routine that is safe and comfortable but not very exciting. Fear of falling flat on your face or of looking foolish stops you from reaching out beyond that cozy little life you’ve created for yourself. If your goal is to expand your comfort zone, then you must think positive while doing these. Remember that nothing really bad can happen to you if you are smart in how you go about trying new things. It’s all just new adventures. Become like a curious child and have some fun.
1) Join Toastmasters or take a theater class. The idea is to force yourself into public speaking. By learning how to project your voice and how to think clearly while on stage, you will be able to better conduct yourself in business and when getting your point across to others. This will build a lot of self-confidence, which will help you to really push your comfort zone in regards to speaking out in front of others. Everyone is always terrified at first. Public speaking is the number one phobia in America. You will be shocked to discover just how much fun this can be. You’ll get bit by the acting bug or the public speaking bug before you know it. It will most likely become a new hobby that you’ll love dearly.
2) Drive home a different route every day for a week and shop at completely new grocery store. By breaking out of your normal daily routine, you become aware of just how much time you spend tucked away safely within your comfort zone. Breaking out of your rut can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or rearranging the furniture at home. You can trade bedrooms with one of your roommates or move into a new home. Go on vacation to a completely unfamiliar location. The idea here is to change your physical environment and to mix up your overall sensory experiences. By forcing yourself into new locations, you not only become aware of how attached you are to your favorite old haunts, but you also force yourself to see the world from a new angle.
3) Learn a new sport. This one has to be done with respect to your age and physical health. For some it could be an extreme sport like sky diving. For others it could be learning to play tennis or to play golf. The idea is that you again force yourself into meeting other people while pushing yourself physically into unknown territories. You should obviously pick something that you’ll enjoy doing and that won’t hurt. If you have bad knees don’t take up running or high impact aerobics. If you are bored out of your mind while watching baseball, then you probably aren’t going to enjoy playing it either. You also need to consider honestly whether or not you are a team player. You might be better off learning to rock climb rather than to play flag football. Whatever you choose, commit yourself to learning it completely and be safe.
4) Compliment three strangers each day for a week. This isn’t the same as public speaking. This is private speaking. In order to do this one correctly, you have to become fully aware of the people around you. You’d be amazed at just how many strangers you pass every day. You also have to think of genuinely nice things to say. It’s not enough to simply speak to three strangers, but to compliment them forces you to think about the person before you speak to them. We can randomly say, “Nice weather we’re having” to everyone we meet. That’s not really connecting and concentrating on another human being. Force yourself outside of your comfort zone so as to tell strangers that you noticed something good about them. You will make their day and your own. You may even find yourself with some new friends by the end of the week.
5) Volunteer. Volunteer at an elderly care center, a children’s cancer clinic, or an AIDS hospice center, etc. They will love you for just showing up and in conversing with them you’ll learn all about people’s real regrets in life. People never say, “I really did experience too many adventures.” Instead, they almost always comment on all of the adventures they denied themselves. They talk of how if they had it to do all over again… how they’d be more spontaneous and loving. There’s nothing quite like seeing folks at the end of their life to make you really appreciate your own. Spend some time giving of yourself to those who don’t have a lot of time left and you’ll soon come to realize how much the world has to offer. Perhaps you will want to take a bigger bite out of life before it’s too late?
All of these ideas are variations on the same theme. You are to practice becoming spontaneous.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. A Return to Love – Marianne Williamson
Once you’ve tried a few things on this list, than make a list of 100 things that you want to accomplish before you die and start doing them. Have a wonderful time with this concept.
There’s no reason to expand your comfort zone so as to take on more work duties or more responsibilities. You will have enough of that thrust upon you in life. You’re going to do this one for your own happiness and nobody else’s. You are too self-censoring and too routine for your own good and happiness.
Here’s a great poem on “your comfort zone”!
I used to have a comfort zone
Where I knew I couldn’t fail
The same four walls of busy work
Were really more like jail.
I longed so much to do the things
I’d never done before,
But stay inside my comfort zone
And paced the same old floor.
I said it didn’t matter,
That I wasn’t doing much
I said I didn’t care of things
Like diamonds, furs, and such.
I claimed to be so busy
With the things inside my zone,
But deep inside I longed for
Something special of my own.
I couldn’t let me life go by,
Just watching others win.
I held my breath and stepped outside
And let the change begin.
I took a step and with new strength
I’d never felt before,
I kissed my comfort zone “goodbye”
And closed and locked the door.
If you are in a comfort zone,
Afraid to venture out,
Remember that all winners were
At one time filled with doubt.
A step or two and words of praise,
Can make your dreams come true.
Greet your future with a smile,
Success is there for you!
Give yourself permission to expand your wings so you can fly a little higher and little further to see what else is out there. The best way to do this is to increase your RPM and get outside your comfort zone often.
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